Control or BDSM? What is the difference?
Having had a very enjoyable session today, with a submissive gentleman, who did as he was told and completely controlled by me. I was later asked a question that often crops up. What is the difference between Control and BDSM? Are they not the same? In my opinion they are not!
I consider Control to be where i command or direct a person (often but not exclusively, in a dominant manner) but without the need to inflict pain. BDSM also involves control, including fetish and role play, but can also include pain. Probably the best way to explain what i enjoy is the B (Bondage) and the D (Discipline) of BDSM.
Anyone who's looking for the more hard core side of things i would recommend www.mistresslashes.com/ - she offers the full range of BDSM.